Nobody wants to be a “Wedding Monster”! (It’s not just whether marriage is for you as Michael Baisden used to ask, it’s whether you have “marriage skills” and the willingness to use them.)
So you know that you want to take the next step, but you’re a little worried about her temper, his drinking, her spending or his workaholism. You know you love each other but you just can’t agree on how much to spend on the wedding or you’re wondering if he’s really let go of his previous girlfriend. Situational stress can reveal the cracks in a relationship. Or you may need help getting a few details straightened out. What if you had a manual to light the way through this maze of your partner’s puzzling behaviors. Premarital counseling can help you construct that manual.
Today’s couples are facing more challenges than ever in preserving their relationships. People get married on the basis of romantic love, which is a necessary but not sufficient foundation for marriage. Many seek the religious guidance of their churches to prepare for the joint spiritual aspect of their relationships. But when it comes to the everyday nitty-gritty of getting along, you need real specific skills. That’s what therapists are trained to help you with.
In-depth premarital counseling identifies your true needs, your skills and your weaknesses. These and other practical techniques give couples what they need to develop a lasting union.
Considerable research has been carried out to identify habits which make relationships successful and which ones may squash a rleationship before the wedding bills are even paid.
After years of couples counseling, there are certain practices, behaviors and attitudes that stand out as being especially helpful in maintaining healthy, productive relationships. Discover
the unique components of your relationship and know ahead of time exactly what to do to eliminate the inevitable problems.
Therapy clinicians apply many of the “best practice” principals to relationships, define core beliefs, teach conflict resolution skills, identify personal goals, couple goals and family goals, establish a long term plan for the relationship and teach you how to administer basic maintenance along the way.
Before you spend thousands on the wedding, wouldn’t it be in your best interests to invest a little time and money in making sure that you have a relationship durable enough to celebrate?
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