In celebration of your love, why not give your partner the gift of understanding? Would that you could, right? The traditional problem with relationships is that opposites attract, men are not like women and each one is sure that the other is crazy. So you give them jewelery or flowers or whatever you saw on TV and hope that he or she knows what you want it to convey – and then you cross your fingers.

Well, that method has been used for years and while it might keep you out of the dog house, it rarely changes a flailing relationship for the better. What can? Couples coaching or counseling. There is a science to successful relationships just like there is to most interactions. Counseling is not “personal advice giving”. It is a science based on human personality types, communication and brain styles, family systems and reasonable expectations. While spiritual beliefs certainly shore up many relationships, the working tools need to be in place to give people specific tools that they can use in daily situations.

We find that most couples really love each other but  are having a hard time communicating. Yes, I know you’ve heard that finances are the number one cause of marriages breaking up. We’re not sure about that. It’s more likely that when people can’t get their partner’s attention to their feelings, they start talking back through their bank accounts & credit cards. That usually gets them a reaction, just not a positive one.

Counseling works to tune up a relationship as well as to revive a failing one. Learn how to see your partner’s strengths and understand and support their weaknesses. Learn how to get what you want and need from your relationship, especially because you want to have many more Valentines Days!